“What does it mean?” is a continuing series where we ask a blogger how they used their wedding as an expression of their union with their significant other. Today we are honored to hear from Lindsey Tramuta and her husband Cédric. Lindsey is the blogger of Lost in Cheeseland where she writes about her experience living in France through food, travel, and love. She contributes to a number of web and print publications. Cédric is an aeronautical engineer specialized in aerodynamics for a French company that manufactures airplane engines In all his spare time, he can be found bouldering in Fontainebleau and rock climbing throughout Europe when time allows.
As enriching as it is to live abroad, the implications of such a choice are inherently complicated. Enter into a multi-cultural relationship and complications are heightened even further. When Cédric and I announced our engagement to friends and family, we included a caveat – the nuptials would take place in Paris, six months later. At the time, many of my friends in the States were grad students on tight, no-travel budgets and knew immediately that, despite their earnest wishes, attending our wedding wouldn’t be possible. The same was true for most of my family.
Six months of preparations began and to my surprise, I was comfortable leaving most of the organizational elements to Cédric and his mother, who was eager to help. Despite this distance, the stress mounted. How would I feel having only a small group of my friends and only my father with me in Paris to celebrate? Would the wedding feel… official?
Before and after the ceremony, I watched as my father slipped between groups of guests to introduce himself and learn how each and every one of them warmed our lives in different ways. I saw the connections develop between him and my in-laws and I felt his joy as Cédric and I took our first steps as husband and wife. At the reception, my father could hardly utter a full thought in his speech before welling with tears. But what he did manage to say left us both overcome with emotion. I looked around the room to see some of my new friends and a few old pals who did make the trip abroad, and they too were moved by the moment. It was in the midst of this moment that I realized that no other celebration would feel as real and meaningful.
*Note: we did go on to throw a U.S. wedding reception (3 years later!) for all of our friends and family who were unable to travel to Paris.
Photography by François Jorez and Winston Alford-Hamburg
“What does it mean?” is a continuing series where we ask a blogger how they used their wedding as an expression of their union with their significant other. Today we are honored to hear from Cree and Amanda Jane Jones. Amanda is graphic designer and author of her blog, Amanda Jane Jones and Cree is currently working at the UN. The two are living in Geneva, Switzerland.
Our wedding day was so simple. We were married in the morning, had a beautiful luncheon with family and close friends then by 4:00, Cree and I turned off our phones and headed straight for Highway 1. We had nothing planned…just a full tank of gas and a week to explore the California coast. It wasn’t a big affair, but a wonderful way to start our life adventure together.
We kept our wedding simple with a few personal elements. Here are a couple that I felt made the day extra memorable:
PAPER GOODS: Being a graphic designer, my paper paper goods were extremely important to me. I designed our announcements and name plates and had them printed by Bjorn Letterpress. He is a very talented craftsman and took such care. I’ll be forever grateful for his beautiful work.
THE DRESS: I adored my wedding dress. It was my grandmothers’s and she graciously let me alter it by removing the train and hemming it to tea length. I felt like a Grace Kelly surrounded by so much vintage lace and tulle. For me, it was everything I ever dreamed a wedding dress could be and it was a special moment for both grandma and me. (Speaking of vintage, my adorable bridesmaids are most definitely worth mentioning. I found vintage dresses for each of them…I thought they looked as sweet as could be.)
THE MUSIC: All through college I sang in a Jazz Band with my sweet friend Alexis Munoa. She teamed up with a guitarist to serenade us during our post wedding luncheon. Her voice is a favorite and I was honored to have her there as a part of our celebration.
Wedding photos by J. Fields Photography
“What does it mean?” is the second post in a continuing series where we ask a blogger how they used their wedding as an expression of their union with their significant other. Today we are honored to hear from Vané Broussard, the creator and writer of Brooklyn Bride.
Its hard to pick 1 meaningful part of our wedding, but I think if I had to, it wasn’t anything we did ourselves. It was the sheer amazingness of our guests who had traveled near and far to celebrate with us! While the wedding was in Brooklyn, we had guests who came from all over the US and as far as Japan, Australia, and Egypt! It was so humbling to have them all there, but the best part was having them let their hair down in the “faux-to” booth we had set up outside the reception….the pictures taken there are some of our favorites from the whole day because they captured the fun we wanted everyone to have! Those are the moments I think we’ll cherish the most.
Thank you, Vané!
[Photography by Belathée Photography]
A year and a half after my own, I’ve been thinking a lot about how we spend so much time, energy, and resources on creating the “perfect wedding”. Brides (and their mothers!) often feel great stress and anxiety about the whole thing and sometimes I think, “for what?!”. I mean weddings can be a beautiful reflection of a wonderful union between two people, but they can also become overwhelming and much more involved than anticipated. To me, the ideal wedding should be an afterthought to the decision to get married, like “we’re so thrilled about this new step in our lives that we want to celebrate with those we love the most.” So, I thought I’d step back a bit on the wedding frenzy and focus on the meaning behind it with this new column, “What does it mean?”. Every month I’ll feature a different blogger and ask them what the most meaningful part of their wedding was. I’m quite excited to see how those I admire have celebrated their union, but first, you have to hear from me.
When it comes to keeping things simple, I shouldn’t be talking because I really used my wedding as an excuse to get my craft on, but there were a couple of things that I’m really glad we did. First, Paul and I gathered photos from our parents and grandparents on their wedding days and I glued them into the front and back covers of our guestbook. My grandparents always had a guestbook in their home and constantly played host to guests visiting their home in Los Angeles. I wanted the guestbook to be something that we could use after the wedding in the same way and because of this, I’m always reminded of our dear family.
Second, I sent out about 25 blank canvas flags out to friends and family before the wedding accompanied by a color palette with the theme “Scandinavian garden” and asked them to go wild. We knew that many invitees wouldn’t be able to attend our wedding because of distance so this was a way they could be there with us. Each time a flag showed up in the mail we were floored. They were SO creative! One friend used the format of the Danish flag and in one quadrant painted a daisy, the symbol of Denmark where Paul was from, another quadrant featured a California poppy where I was from, another quadrant featured a Canadian maple leaf where Paul was born, and the last were DC cherry blossoms where I was living at the time. I mean, how thoughtful can you be?! We felt so lucky to have our friends spend time on us in that way.
Can’t wait to see more “meaning” posts? Me neither! Stay tuned for more!
[images from Ali Degraff]