Kate sent me her wedding a few weeks ago, and I’m happy to finally get to post it! It looks like one of those weddings that you’d be so psyched that you just got invited!
I’ve been meaning to send you a few photos of our wedding, held last summer (July 5, 2008) at our house in Vermont, for ages. Michael and I live in Brooklyn and are fiercely devoted to our borough (he owns a company called Neighborhoodies, and I work at Brooklyn Botanic Garden), but our 1823 home in Vermont– Fern Hill– is where our hearts live. We built our wedding from the ground up with friends and family: making the food, putting together the flowers, designing and printing the paper goods, making playlists, and more. The wedding wasn’t only a carnival of love, but a proud productive moment for me, Michael, and our loved ones!
There are so many stories to share. I’ll try to structure some around the photos attached: we had the ceremony on a small hill overlooking a brook, the same spot where Michael proposed in June of 2007. Our officiant was my best friend (and maid of honor’s) mother, who led a Jewish-inflected ceremony that became very emotional for many of our guests, particularly when Michael read an excerpt he chose from Whitman’s “Song of the Open Road.” The end of the ceremony– when he smashed the glass– was pure joy, and we took off running down the hill in a totally strange & unplanned & and wonderful expression of delight!
We worked with a dear friend on creating the dinner menu, which used ingredients almost exclusively from Vermont purveyors. Another friend brought a quart of his famous salad dressing, and yet another drove up our favorite vegan whoopie pies from a bakery in Bethlehem, PA! My ivory lace dress was vintage in perfect condition (and I traded hundreds of dollars in alterations with a wonderful woman I met on Indiebride), and so was Michael’s three-piece navy suit, which came from Rue St. Denis in the East Village. The peony season in Vermont is only about three weeks, but luckily we fell right in the middle of it and bought 125 peonies from a nearby farm in shades of pink and white to arrange alongside soy votives in mason jars and simple glass vases over some old cotton lace I picked up at tag sales around town. My MOH hand-wrote all the place cards and table names, which were the names of New York Times sections (which Michael and I can’t function during the day without reading).
Our photographer, Heather Waraksa, and her second shooter Mike blew us away with their ease, skill, creativity, friendliness and, of course, the quality of the shots. I already have sent too many (and they’re out of order!), but we shot this amazingly cool series at night with sparklers (it was the day after July 4, after all), and some of the portraits they did were mindblowingly gorgeous.
[images by Heather Waraksa]
Aren’t these invites just the coolest? New custom work from Swayspace…I just love the woodgrain and how the text wraps itself in between.
[images from Swayspace]
I’m so jealous that Anna and Lib got to ride the ever-elusive Carousel in DUMBO….we took our wedding photos in many of the same spots down there but that was the ONE that was closed
Anna & Liberty
September 19th, 2008
SmackMellon Studios, BROOKLYN, New York
Lib and I had a GREAT time planning our wedding. For us, getting married was just declaring publicly what we have known for a really long time, that we love each other deeply and are meant to be together. We are a pretty non-trad couple and we wanted everything about the day to reflect our style. Every thing we did had meaning and symbolism for us, we made it all count! We knew we wanted a short, but very meaningful and spiritual ceremony and then…throw a huge, awesome party to celebrate with all the people we love! We had a very diverse crowd – backgrounds, age ranges, country of origin – so we wanted to make sure we everyone felt included and part of the party, in every aspect. We chose to use local businesses and artists as much as possible. The quality of their work and dedication far surpassed anything we’ve ever seen. We had the best day of our lives and when I think back, all I do is smile, the room was completely full of love – it was amazing!
Ceremony & Reception Site
We had our ceremony and reception at Smack Mellon in Brooklyn (www.smackmellon.org/rent.html) – we loved the venue from the second we saw it. I really wanted a blank canvas for the wedding so we could set things up exactly as we wanted it to be. The space is located between the foot of the Manhattan and Brooklyn Bridges in DUMBO and the views are spectacular. It brings the feeling of old Brooklyn, together with the new – and since Lib and I are both born Brooklynites, and so proud of it, we felt it fit perfectly.
Karen Mordechai (www.karenmordechai.com) of Brooklyn. I found Karen through a post on Brooklyn Bride! I thought her photos were fantastic, so I called her immediately and booked the date. She met with Liberty and I and we were on our way. She is talented, calm, sweet and extremely professional. Karen shoots in more of a photo-journalistic style – and that’s what we wanted – someone who could go with the flow. She honored all our requests and was genuinely concerned that we be satisfied and happy. Karen totally surprised us when she told us she obtained permission for us to take pics on the beautiful antique carousel in DUMBO – something Liberty really wanted to do!
Always a Bridesmaid (www.alwaysabridesmaid.us)
Possibilities are endless when you rent a raw space, and so is the list of things you have to do to make it all work out. Since the venue comes with, well, 4 walls and a bathroom, we were really going to need help coordinating the days leading up the wedding and the day of. Xochitl and Mayra were the unbelievable! They went above and beyond what they signed on to do, and the day went off without a hitch (at least none that I know of)! They have a terrific relationships with their past and current vendors and knew exactly what to do when they were faced with new challenges. Liberty and I enjoyed every second, they kept everything organized and on track, and were absolutely graceful and amazing and lovely. Liberty and I don’t know what we would have done without them, and we cannot say enough about them and the amount of joy they brought to our day.
Our Amazing Ceremony
My sister was my maid of honor and Liberty’s nephew was his best man. My mother walked me down the “isle” to Israel Kamakawiwo’oles’ version of “Wonderful World.” Our officiate was Ali Berlin (www.aliberlin.com) who we feel blessed to know! She is an amazing, spiritual woman who is a life coach in San Francisco, CA. Liberty and I wrote our own vows and asked Ali to incorporate several themes into our service – including having our guests be a part of it. Ali asked all our guests to join hands and pledge to support us not only on that day, but throughout our marriage. Our ceremony was about 15 minutes, but every single word was meaningful! After Ali finished her beautiful ceremony, we recessed to “Here Comes the Sun” by the Beatles. There was hardly a dry eye in the house!
Invites, Cards, all things paper (and beyond)
All by Jessica and her staff at Artez’n on Atlantic Ave (www.artezn.com). We knew the vibe we wanted and Jessica caught on right away. We wanted to use a photo Liberty took of the Brooklyn Bridge, so she worked her design magic and made it into our “Save the Date” postcard. The invites, envelopes, place cards, table cards, menus and our thank you notes all keep in the same “Brooklyn LOVE” theme. We got so much positive feedback about them – some of our guests framed them! Jessica also put together our hotel bags which were Brooklyn themed and contained Brooklyn Soap, Brooklyn Fudge, Brooklyn maps, magnets, postcards…
Our talented friend Scott Bragin of Rhythm of the Night Entertainment (Brooklyn again!) ruled the turntables! Liberty is a musician and he and I met when I was working in the music business – so this was perhaps the most important part of our reception for us! Lib had stacks of song lists by the hour and after a few meetings with Scott, we knew it would be flawless. Our guests were pretty surprised that with a room full of musicians we chose to have a DJ. For us, it was a no brainer – we wanted our guests to dance, not play music all night (which is what happens when musicians and instruments are in the same room). Originally we didn’t want a “first dance” but so many people told us that we needed to get the party started by getting up there first, I’m glad we did! Lib dedicated, “Feels Like Home” to me and I dedicated “No One” to him. We played music during our cocktail hour by our musician friends who were in attendance, mixed in with Americana and Lounge and the rest of night covered everything from Funk and Soul to the Stones and Jane’s Addiction. Scott did an amazing job – the dance floor was always FULL – including all the musicians who kept going, “Oh – I love this song! (firstname.lastname@example.org). We closed the evening with The Beatles, “All You Need Is Love.” I would not change a single note played.
Steve Carapella, Three Brothers Butchers/Caraleo Catering – We are way into food and Lib has serious Italian roots, so we really wanted everything to be outstanding. It was. We worked with Steve who also helped us with rentals of staff, chairs, tables, linens, silverware – lots of planning and sampling (which was fun). They even brought in uplighting for us for the room. We didn’t want any “typical wedding food.” Our menu was completely custom created from our wishlist and they tweaked everything we wanted so that we could make it work in a space that does not allow open flames and has a limited kitchen. We added Brooklyn Wine (www.redwhiteandbubbly.com) and Brooklyn Beer (www.brooklynbrewery.com) to our full bar, as well as several ‘non-alcoholic’ customized drinks for our guests – so they would have more than the same old soda and juice options.
We didn’t want a traditional wedding cake, so we brought in all of our favorite desserts, gigantic chocolate cream filled cupcakes (they look like the famous ones with the white squiggle on top – only twice the size) from Downtown Atlantic Bakery on Atlantic Avenue (www.downtownatlantic.com), trays of caramel bread pudding from 3 Brothers, all different flavors of delicious Junior’s Cheesecake (www.juniorscheesecake.com), cannolis, fruit and pastries and…what turned out to be the biggest hit of the night – and a surprise for Lib from me -a Mr Softee truck (www.mistersoftee.com)! We attached tickets to the back of everyone’s place card that they could turn in to the ice cream man for whatever they would like. In a matter of seconds, all the guests turned into a bunch of kids running out the door to get to the truck! It was terrific (and it is a great value)!
Flowers & Decor
We are all about the vintage and antique vibe and I wanted something really special for our centerpieces, so we spent months collecting vintage antique depression glass pitchers and glass sets from flea markets and antique shops – no two were the same. I printed out tons of pictures of flower arrangements and color schemes and brought them to Joe at Langdon Florist (212 962 4371). After being endlessly patient with me (I am clueless about flowers) we decided on arrangements that were antique looking and let the beauty of the glass shine. Joe filled each pitcher with flowers and the matching glasses were filled with tea lights and placed around the pitchers on each table. I bought tons of vintage amber juice glass sets and amber candleholders and we used them on the tables, window sills – everywhere! Joe also made a few large arrangements that we used for multiple purposes at venue (on the card table, as a backdrop for the ceremony, then the bar, then the buffet – you make the most of your budget that way) as well as the bouquet for my sis, boutonnières for Liberty and Eric and flowers for our parents. He went out of his way to make sure everything was perfect. Joe took our budget and showed us how to get the most out of it. At the end of the night, whomever had a purple ribbon tied to their chair, took the vintage pitcher and glass set home as their favor. Also, we set up 2 Polaroid cameras and sign in books for our guests to take pics, and write notes (lots of people snuck extra pics and took them home as mementos).
This was a very important part of the day for Lib and I and we wanted to make this happen in a way that was positive and happy.
I asked our photographer Karen for one posed shot – and one only! When my mom got married, her photographer took a few pics of her getting ready with my Nana in front of her vanity mirror. My nana passed when I was little, but we were very close. My mom still has that mirror, so she brought it to our apartment where Karen helped set it up in my bedroom, and we placed a photo of my nana and pop off to the side. My mom posed in the mirror with me, and I got a new version of her picture. Karen also took photos of the original Polaroid’s, which was a nice surprise to see when I got my pictures back! Also, I put my nana’s bedspread and a pretty little pillow she had on our so it’s in the background of all our “getting ready” shots.
During our ceremony, Ali spoke about those whom we wished could be with us, more specifically mentioning Liberty’s brother who passed away very young. She pointed out that he was there with us through his son Eric, Liberty’s best man. Ali also thanked my mother on my behalf, for being both my mom and my dad my whole life, and how much that means to me. The photos of nana and pop went on my mom’s table, as well as a few other photos. My cousin, Father Giles (who is 80!) is a Franciscan priest and he blessed our marriage and said grace prior to dinner, pulling all of our family members and guests together. I searched all over for a vintage locket that could hold multiple pics for a gift my sis (which I found on Etsy). I filled it with photos of all the generations of strong women in our family who we are descendants of. I wanted her to know that’s he is one of those strong women and that I love her not only as my sister, but as my best friend. I added my mom’s blue butterfly pin to my bouquet, as well as a locket (Etsy again) with pictures of my family who could not be with there with me, but were all definitely there in spirit!
Beauty & Attire
My hair was done by the talented Paul of PANYC Salon in NYC (www.panyconline.com). I’ve been going to him for about 10 years now and he never lets me down! Brooklyn make up artist Elizabeth Kamp was amazing! She not only did my make up, but also did my sister’s and mom’s. She is the calmest person in the world and she’s a great listener! Fellow redheads will understand this – she didn’t try to cover my freckles or cake on crazy amounts of makeup! Both Elizabeth and Paul offer amazing pricing for what they do. My dress is Jenny Packham, Liberty’s suit is John Varvatos.
My earrings were borrowed from my oldest friends, Jennifer Gandia of Greenwich Jewelers NYC (www.greenwichjewelers.com) I carried a purse that my sis got for me from a vintage shop specifically for this purpose – when I got engaged (5 years ago)! My sister’s jewelry is by Maleeka on Atlantic Ave (www.maleeka.com).
[images by Karen Mordechai]
We’ve opted out of picking one or two wedding colours in favour of this textured colour palette.
The green Nelle purse was the perfect accessory to pull my bridesmaid’s ‘look’ together – I love it.
(image credits: design*sponge, bklyn pillow, luxe deluxe (etsy), martha stewart, jcrew, gravity pope & nelle)
How cute are these Love Notes by Sarah Drake? Nice Valentine or wedding gift if you ask me.
[images from Sarah Drake]